Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Unexpected Kindness

At church this weekend I was surprised by unsolicited kind comments from a couple of church members. A man I know only a little, and who I would not have assumed to be fond of my husband's ministry style, was chatting with my kids and told them, "Your dad is a good pastor. One of the best!"

So sweet and so poignant. I realized, as I sometimes have before, that the conflict here is localized to just a few people who happen to be very powerful in this congregation. I've heard that major church conflict is usually confined to 7-10 vocal critics. Our experience seems to support that theory.


  1. My experience would prove the theory correct too. I saw my husband, and the church, make steps forward to only see him and the church take humongous steps, even leaps backwards because of a small group of people. Unfortunately, these people, as you already know, can be lethal and toxic not only to the church, but just as severely, if not more so, to your husband and your family. Trust me, I know all too well and suffered the consequences, even now. So I hope you are able to withstand the storm and can come out wiser, stronger, safer and free from this bondage.

  2. I'm so glad you were encouraged. Our husbands work very hard and it is such a breath of fresh air when people say nice things about them and to them!

  3. I have found this to be true, as well. Like the saying goes, "A few bad apples..." Unfortunately, it is the negative that Satan amplifies and place the spotlight on. Hold tight to things like the comment made to your children. Rays of sunshine from our Father to remind us of the true Light. God be with you.


Thanks for using this space to share your encouraging words.