Thursday, February 11, 2010

Just One Little Change

Fellow wives of pastors,

Do you ever think you would like to keep everything about your life just as it is except for the part about being married to a pastor?



  1. Sometimes I used to think that. But when my husband lost his dying parish, I discovered two things. First, there are a lot of practical, daily things that are harder when he's working as a layman. (See some of David Petersen's blogposts about the blessings of being a pastor.) Second, my husband is who he is, and being a pastor is part of HIM, and it's very hard for him to be doing secular work, even when compared to the extreme difficulties of the congregation he served.

    I guess what I'm saying is that we might dream it would be easier if he were no longer a pastor. But I haven't met any pw's for whom it actually pans out.

    And so we just learn to find our hope and comfort in Christ's salvation (as irrelevant as that sometimes seems to what goes on hour-by-hour).

  2. I would have to agree with Susan's post. There are times when I yearn to be free of these people, I feel they control so much of our lives but I know I am very blessed to be where I am and things could be so much worse. I love my husband for who he is and being a Pastor is part of him.


  3. Being a pastor's wife is part of who you are when you keep that marriage vow. We are united with our husbands for better and indeed, for worse.

    I have been reminding myself that God would not allow me to be a pastor's wife unless He knew that I could manage it. He has promised to never give us more than we can handle. That is where my comfort lies - my Savior is with me through each and every situation that my husband and I encounter in the parish.


Thanks for using this space to share your encouraging words.