I'm also still po'd at him. I thought that this might be the point where his shell would come off and he would finally reveal some awareness of the pain my husband and I have suffered in this situation. No such luck. All business.
A reader wrote to tell me about a resource for clergy wives. I've just browsed a little but it looks great. It's called BethNuah Ministries. I read a devotion posted there about loneliness. It's so good to hear someone else identify so many of the situations that have made me feel so incredibly isolated within our congregation.